I know many of you are mumbling to yourselves "well its about damn time she put up a new column!" Considering the fact that I host two radio shows per week now, and write for my blog and The Examiner, get over it! Valentine's Day is coming up, and I expect I'll get lots of letters complaining about what some man did wrong, or didn't do enough of or well enough from disgruntled women.  You can see them in the next column!  In this edition we hear from a man that thinks women should be more Spock-like (like men), a man angry that his girlfriend won't get an abortion, a silly Caucasian female that wants everyone to be like her, an woman furious that her ex-husband took their son to the home of the hooka that broke up their marriage, and a young woman who gets two thumbs up for revenge cheating with her lying boyfriend's best friend.  The drama never quits on AskHeartBeat.Com!

Each Wednesday and Saturday night at 6:00 p.m (PST)/9:00 (EST), advice columnist and author Deborrah Cooper hosts The Date Smarter Not Harder Internet radio talk show.  On tonight!

Things Men do That Drive Women Away!
Saturday, February 6, 2010

What do women report as being the top things men do that drive women away from dates, relationships, love, commitment and marriage? We'll be discussing traits and behaviors highest on women's lists that make them run in the opposite direction from the men in their lives as they say "awww hell nawww, I'm outta here!"

Whether you are female dating men that have run you off, or a man that did some of these dastardly deeds women complain of, we want to hear from you. If you have been put into the friend zone or your romance never got off the ground, you may just learn why tonight.

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Gullible women have been sold a bill of goods by smooth talking, opportunistic booty hounds and players when it comes to friends with benefits relationships. You women want to believe it means he finds you attractive but isn't ready for a girlfriend because his heart was broken, he got cheated on, he doesn't trust women, he has too much going on to commit, blah blah blah. In reality, he is telling you to your face that you are good enough to screw, but not good enough to invest feelings in Being someone's FWB partner basically means that you are a provider of free sex services for a man that is flatly telling you that he will not commit to you because he doesn't like you "like that." Why would you do that to yourself?

Women write the "Dear Ms. HeartBeat" advice column every week, seeking help understanding why their latest "relationship" went sour.  Most times after digesting the facts, it's clear as the nose on your face that there WAS no relationship at all.  Therefore, the writer's expectations of fidelity, commitment or involvement were totally misplaced.  In other words, get a clue woman... he ain't trying to be with you like that!

You see a girl that you are interested in and you approach her. You start a conversation and she is responsive, meaning she engages in the conversation, rather than giving you the "brush off." The next thing you need to know is how to get a girl's phone number. Once you have approached a girl and started a conversation, and things are going well, the next logical step is to ask her for her phone number. This is not going to be the first thing that you do of course...

It is hard for me or for anybody else to say with solid preciseness what it is that makes a man or a woman fall in love with another person.  Of course we can always mention what first attracted us to that individual, but what exactly made us become enamored? A thoughtful examination of how love is born!

Many guys that are looking for a woman to catch and keep will be put off by certain personalities and behaviour patterns. Learn what will send him running in a heart beat! Dating various people should be undertaken in a manner whereby each date is assessed on their individual qualities and strengths and not immediately categorized. Progressing on to a second or third date with the same person will uncover more of their true self. Many guys that are looking for a woman to catch and keep will be put off by certain personalities and behaviour patterns. Learn what will send him running in a heart beat!

While you may think that you must do something very major in order for your relationship to go sour, the truth is that there are some apparently small things that have major consequences. As a woman, there are some things that you may do without even thinking about them, which may seem very insignificant. Unfortunately, such apparently small things may make the love of your man vanish. Let us take a look at some of the things you should be aware of so that you do not fall victim to a broken relationship.