40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men – Index of Posts

Our series of 40 blog posts on Damaged Beyond Repair (DBR) Black Men will address issues of behavior and attitude of black men and how those attitudes and behaviors are self-defeating and/or damaging to black women, black children and the black community as a whole.

The 40 posts will be divided between AskHeartBeat.Com and SurvivingDating.Com. To assist you in finding each one, we’ve created this index of all the posts to date.

Post Title	Subject Matter
The Violence and Behavior of Black Men is Destroying Black America	The negative and violent behaviors of black men represents a mentality that will negatively impact the black community and unless checked, continue a downward spiral.
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DAY 1 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men	Blogger and columnist Deborrah Cooper discusses the socialization of black males which promotes concepts of manhood which make black men the exact opposite of what black women need and desire.
Day 2 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: The 12 Steps of Change	This series is designed to raise awareness and speak clearly and honestly about the behaviors that are decimating the black community and laying waste to our proud heritage. Such negative, damaging behaviors must be stopped…these attitudes must be changed.
Day 3 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Failure to Protect	Deborrah Cooper with the third of 40 essays on the socialization of black men and how damaging it is to black women, black children and the black community as a whole.
Day 4 – 40 Days of Rain on FUBAR Black Men – Racking Up Pussy Points	In today’s post we look at black men and the reasons they focus on getting women and pussy moreso than academics, establishing financial stability, laying down solid roots for future generations, or achieving greatness.
Day 5 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: You Are Not a King	Why do black men insist on calling themselves “King” when they have none of the attributes of royalty and nothing that constitutes a kingdom or riches or power?
Day 6 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Entitlement Issues and Black Men	The attitudes black men have regarding commanding black women who are complete strangers to smile or reward them with her number. Their rage at female rejection of “good black men” like them, and unrealistic expectations of entitlement just because they have a job.
Day 7 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Failure to Man Up	Black male socialization teaches them to deny responsibility for anything if a black woman is involved! Blame shifting onto black women is a favorite pastime of suckas. Why can’t black men man up and take responsibility for their behavior and choices? Why can’t black men stop whining like spoiled brats?
Day 8 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Failure to Progress	Though most DBR black men consider themselves to be “good black men” their laziness, escapist behaviors, endless whining about the past, and low self esteem are HARDLY exciting. Not even a little bit.
Day 9 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Parasites Moving In With a Girlfriend	Real men have their woman move in so they can provide for her, but DBR black men are excited about moving in with a woman so they can live rent free. Like a rooster in a hen house, they want to “roost” in your spot instead of providing one for themselves.
Day 10 – 40 Days of DBR Black Men: Lies, Lies and More Lies	By telling you one lie after another, he creates a long chain of lies that stack up and surround you, closing you in. By setting things up so you are living in a fantasy world of his creation, he has put you in the weakened position giving him the ultimate upper hand.
Day 11 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Failure to be Chivalrous	What is behind the DBR man’s resistance to being chivalrous to black women? Here we expose the twisted thinking of black men that hate chivalry and women, using feminism and women’s desire to be “independent” as justification.
Day 12 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Booty Bandits Demanding Anal Sex	DBR black men put the responsibility for keeping their sex life from being stale on black women and anal sex. In other words, her anus has the onus on whether or not the relationship continues based on her giving up the A, no matter what damage it does to her body or mind.
Day 13 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Failure to Grow Up	DBR black men are inordinately dependent upon Momma or a Mommy substitute for everything – from nurturing and “supporting” them, to cooking cleaning and finances. Dating a man-child will always end badly.
Day 14 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: They Kill Children for Revenge	Domestic violence experts say that the period surrounding a woman’s escape from a violent relationship is the risky. But what they fail to mention is how dangerous that time is for her children and other family members as well.
Day 15 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: They Kill Ex-Girlfriends	With each new man you date, there is a high risk that when the relationship ends he will have the attitude “if I can’t have you, nobody will”. Stories of women who have lost their lives because their boyfriends couldn’t take rejection.
Day 16 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: One Trick and Lie After Another	DBR black males have a deep seated need to feel superior to females. They will use every lie, every sleight of hand trick, every mind-game, and every machination they can think of to control and manipulate women.
Day 17 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Asking Women Stupid Ass Questions	Setting out many of the common dumb ass questions, requests and commands that DBR black men give to black women, and why 99% of the time women roll their eyes and tell your stupid ass “No!” in response.
Day 18 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Controlling Young Women With Birth Control Sabotage	DBR black males have an overwhelming desire to control every aspect of women’s lives, including their bodies and fertility. Sabotaging birth control to force a pregnancy is a common yet not often discussed tool of violent, controlling abusive men.
Day 19 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Pastor Tricks and Lies	Guilt-tripping black women into being a mammy slave for black men is a favorite past time of black religious leaders. If they spent even half the time they spend “instructing” women on teaching strength, determination, commitment, honor, respect and purpose – traits that black men need to have to succeed in life AND relationships – the black community would be a lot better off.
Day 20 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Black Men Obsessed with Ghetto Baby Mommas	It’s not the thug dudes who are obsessed with ShaQuanisha, it’s these so called “good black men” who live, sleep and dream about her. It’s clear that these “good black men” strongly and passionately desire ShaQuanisha — that’s why they talk about her so much.
Day 21 – 40 Days of Rain on DBR Black Men: Murdering Black Women for Shits and Giggles	Black women are murdered at a rate three times that of white women according to an analysis of 2011 homicide data in the U.S. According to the report, 94% of the black women murdered knew their killers. Why do black men believe it is okay for them to kill black women because they are upset, angry or feel rejected?