You will find out what type of person he is very quickly if you pay attention. Never think that anything YOU did or said caused him to disrespect you. He is not a child. Men know very well how to treat women. Anything other than respect is a test to see what he can get away with or his passive-aggressive attempt to demean and degrade you on the sly.
Short of disappearing overseas under assumed identities, no woman can keep a child away from visitation with it’s father. All visitation requires is that the father be interested in and willing to use the legal system to demand his rights. Unless he is a cretinous, violent felon, he will get them.
According to statistics, black women are the least married demographic in the nation. Though there are black women with no interest in marriage, there are still a large number of young black women who dream of having a wedding where they wear the white gown and become Mrs. Somebody or Other. But black women do not make the decision to be married alone, they need a husband. Why are black men so reluctant to marry?
The only way out of the mental and emotional hole black women are in is to join hands and pull each other up. Columnist and social researcher Deborrah Cooper proposes 12 Commandments of Sisterhood as a great starting point for the Black Women’s Empowerment movement.
A young mother charges her baby daddy $1 a minute to spend time with his twin boys after he lost his job. This chick is no joke and doesn’t care that he cries because he misses his children, she wants her damn money!
You will be attracted in some respect to what you don’t really want, that is a given. You must learn to handle your feelings of attraction in a way that leads you to fulfilling your long-term goals. Remember, poisoned honey may taste sweet going down but it will still kill you!
Don’t allow yourself to get crossed up in those types of mind games. If your man is headed for a fall, step back and let him hit the ground. He’s a grown man, not a baby. You don’t need to rush in there and try to make it all better for him like his Mommy. He’ll get up on his own or reach out to other men to help him up, and he’ll be stronger and smarter for the hard knots he has on his big head and the lessons he’s learned.
Men need a reality check and women are here to give it to them. Never support a man’s dream when its unrealistic, unattainable dreams and he is clearly setting himself up for failure.
Sabotage of birth control is very real. From hiding BC pills to poking holes in condoms and diaphragms, men are forcing young women to become pregnant against their will. Pregnancy and childbirth should always be the WOMAN’S CHOICE, never that of a confused and desperate man whose top goal in life is to do all he can to ruin your daughter’s future.
Just because a woman says she “can’t find a man” it doesn’t mean that she isn’t dating or having sex regularly. What she means is that she hasn’t yet found THE man, the one that she wants to be with forever, the one that she can fully trust, the one whose name she can take with pride, the one she would set up a joint checking account with.
Single men often complain about not being able to find a woman to date. I believe that’s because guys all want the same woman, leaving thousands of great women that would make you very happy sitting alone at home. Take a look at some of these undiscovered gems that are probably right under your nose.