When Did Men Turn Into Women in the Dating Game?

Dear Ms. HeartBeat:
I want to know why so many men today think it is okay to expect a woman to support them financially in a dating relationship?

I recently went out with a good looking guy I met at a party. This guy is 33 years old and told me he had recently divorced his 50 year old wife. He finally admitted that he had married her when he was very young (20 years old), and lived with her while she worked and he went to school. Mind you, this woman was a single mother at the time.

That just disgusts me! How do I meet someone who is financially stable and financially independent? I don’t care if he works at a gas station, as long as he has enough pride to earn his own way in the world.

Signed,
J. Gifford

Dear J. Gifford:
ROFL!

The key mistake you are making is calling these sorry chumps MEN, because they are not. They are merely males. To more appropriately describe them would be punks, users, hustlers, trifling, playboys, etc. You get the picture. There is no need for you to help a man that is not your long-term boyfriend, husband, brother or Dad do ANYTHING. I don’t think women should be asked out on dates and pay their way either.These guys want all the perks and benefits of being the man, while they act like children. SMDH.

For the future, take this advice. As soon as you find out that a guy is into this stuff, dump him. If he says “let’s go out” be sure to ask him where he is taking you and how you should dress. If he wants you to pay, ask him what kind of MAN asks a woman out then wants her to pay? Tell him that is not your kind of man and so there is no point in going anywhere with him.

If he wants you to help him with his bills, tell him that since he made them, he needs to worry about paying them because you are just around for a good time.

If he can’t pay his rent, tell him you heard the homeless shelter was recently remodeled and is very nice. Suggest he hurry down and get bids on a good bed.

If he wants you to buy him clothes, tell him “Sure, no problem!” then drive him down to the Salvation Army and tell him he has a $10 limit but feel free to go wild! Tell him this is where you shop all the time and you dress just fine.

If he wants you to help him with his car note, tell him that it sounds like all he can afford is a bus pass.

If he asks you for money, tell him that you would be happy to give him a 25% cut of whatever he earns for you out on the street and that with his good looks and your brains, he could easily earn $1000 a night.

You get the idea. Mess with his mind to your heart’s content, get yourself a couple of good laughs, then go on about your business.

MsHeartBeat

Relationship and dating advice columnist of Ask HeartBeat! Has enjoyed dishing out insightful yet hilariously funny advice, tersely worded reality checks and "let me slap you upside the head" wake up calls to men and women around the globe since 1991.