Why Are Some Guys So Crude?

Dear Ms. HeartBeat:
I met a guy at a business meeting last week and he was very interested in me. He called and we talked for hours. He kept talking about sex, asking me what I liked and even moving dangerously close to phone sex. I told him at least 5 times that I was not comfortable talking about sex with someone I’d just met and that I’d prefer he talk about something else.

He would change the subject but within a few minutes he’d be talking intimately again about what I like and what we can do. I’d remind him again, I don’t know that we’ll ever do anything and please change the subject. At one point, the phone went dead. He thought I hung up, but I didn’t. I think it was by the grace of God the phone went dead!

I was sick of trying to get this guy to behave with some class. (he’s not an oaf…I don’t know what the hell his deal was). He keeps calling this week and I don’t answer. I finally emailed him today to tell him that I was afraid to talk to him now because he would not listen to me when I’d tell him not to talk sex.

I really have completely lost interest, which is sad, because I was initially really interested. He called to apologize after he got me email. What would you do at this point? I just want to forget I ever met him.

Ms. HeartBeat Responds:
Why do women portray themselves as so weak and silly?? Like you don’t know how to hang up the phone on a nasty freak who enjoys disrespecting you? Why do you think you have stay on the phone and KEEP TALKING to that idiot? Why did you act like the only way to end the conversation was to have a technical problem that ended it for you?

You kept saying you weren’t comfortable, yet you stayed your butt on the phone and KEPT TALKING TO HIM! Men don’t listen to words, they listen to ACTION. And your actions said you were okay with it because you kept listening over and over and over again instead of hanging up the phone!

Do you see how that makes you look?

Stop being a wimp and hiding, doing that ole passive aggressive nonsense. When that freak calls again, set him straight. Cuss him out if you need to go that far! But be sure to tell him allllllll about himself. Let him know that you are not in the habit of talking to men that don’t listen to what you say you want to hear, and you aren’t into ignorant men that disrespect women with adolescent, inappropriately sexual conversation.

Then you tell him to throw away your number because he is stupid, and you hang up the phone and go on with your life.

MsHeartBeat

Relationship and dating advice columnist of Ask HeartBeat! Has enjoyed dishing out insightful yet hilariously funny advice, tersely worded reality checks and "let me slap you upside the head" wake up calls to men and women around the globe since 1991.