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The 'Ho Test: Lady or 'Ho? |
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Written by Deborrah Cooper
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 All men, from hard core players and pimps to hardworking, churchgoing “husband material” will run some variation of the ‘ho test on every woman they meet. How you handle the questions put forth and the situations you will find yourself in shall determine your future. Whether he puts feelings into a relationship with you, or labels you low class, easy, trifling, money-grubbing good for nothing and commences to use you for whatever he can get before moving on is what is at stake...
The Ho Test - How and Why Men Test
Women's Values and Morals
©2000, 2005, 2009 Deborrah Cooper / AskHeartBeat.Com

- “I ended a 9 year relationship almost a year ago, and met a man that I consider to be ideal. We’ve been hanging out and having a mostly sexual relationship. He has a wonderful personality and my family likes him. Why are we not committed? Well, he has a live-in girlfriend…”
- “I met this guy about a year ago. We never had sex, but on our first date he told me that he had a rubber and I told him that I didn’t want to have sex on the first date. I still see him around. I’m lonely and need a companion and would like for this guy to be the one…”
- “I have a wonderful boyfriend of almost 2 years. We are having sex and very much in love. There is this other guy though that I dated before my current boyfriend, and I’m starting to have feelings for him again. We went on a motorcycle ride together and he was putting the moves on me. I want to cheat on my boyfriend in the hopes that I don’t get found out. I don’t want to hurt him, but I can’t get this other guy out of my head…”
- “I met this guy 3 weeks ago. He has a girlfriend, but says it’s not like he’s married or anything. We talk everyday for about 30 minutes. He asks me what kinds of things I like in bed, if I am a freak, what I am wearing, and things like that. What’s going on here? If he does have a girlfriend, why is he acting so interested in me?”
- “I’ dated this guy off and on for a few months, but now I see him only every now and then. He calls out of the blue and tells me that he misses me, still cares about me, and will always take care of me. He has even talked about having children together. We have sex everytime he calls because he leads me to believe that this is the start of something good between us and that he is going to finally leave his baby's momma. But our relationship is strange. I don’t have his home number or any way to contact him really... he always calls me. He never takes me anywhere, and I have yet to meet his friends or family or even to go to his house. What do you think is going on?”
- “I met a guy recently that I found out has four children by four different women. He is staying with a fifth woman that he claims he is just using for a place to stay. He wants us to get together, and promises to be committed. He says he was young and immature and that’s why he wasn’t faithful before. He has even discussed us moving in together, having a baby and even what our children would look like. He says that I am the woman he has been looking for. Do you think he is for real?”
- “I have had many dreams about my friend/boss and told them to him. One night he was giving me a ride home after a night of drinking and we kissed. I got mixed signals because he has a girlfriend. I really like him. What should I do?”
- “I work with this guy and we are good friends. Recently we admitted to each other that we are mutually attracted. The problem is he is married. Seems to be happy – he talks about her all the time. Yet every day we stare into each other’s eyes and whisper those secret comments we know we shouldn’t. He hasn’t made a move to do anything intimate, but I know he thinks about it just like I do. I don’t want to lose his respect for me, but every time I look at him I feel the fire.”
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